I was making my wish list recently and it became very apparent to me that life really does get in the way of living.  After a particularly bad bout of testy days of endless things to do, clean up and tend to, I decided that I needed to take stock of my time, and determine exactly how I could streamline it, and adjust it to provide me maximum ‘happficiency’…(happiness and efficiency).  If I could really pinpoint how I want to live my life, and how I am actually living, then I could determine the exact nature of my void in the happficiency ratio and fix it.  Well, like most people I realized that much of my time is spent doing   laundry, dishes, sweeping the floor (about 6 times per day), paying bills, sitting on hold, ferrying children to and from schools and practice, making beds, tidying rooms, and answering the doorbell (my children’s lovely and very active friends).  All of these menial tasks are taking away from playing with the children, reading to them, holding them, hugging them and spending quality time with them.  If life weren’t so darn demanding I would enjoy the entire point that I had children in the first place- to enjoy them and enjoy our life with them!  How does one actually fix this problem?   A solution:  employ a staff of a fulltime housekeeper, personal assistant, and driver.

Whola!  Problem solved!  I begin to imagine how my day would look with such assistance.  I focus on creating an image in my brain, and visualize the outcome.   My day would open up like the sky after a dark summer storm.  I imagine watching my helpers scurrying about the house, carrying laundry up and down the stairs.  I sit and eat lunch while they sweep the floor and do the dishes.  I take a nap while my children are driven home by a competent Eastern European driver.   I am blissfully relaxed and sit to speak to the children about their day, vaguely miffed when they race out the door to see their friends.  I watch as my team of helpers folds the laundry.  I wonder what’s for dinner, and then it dawns on me just how…inefficient I feel.  It occurs to me how my multitasking ways of motherhood are one of the things that give me strength…wings- big ones with Eagle-like wingspans.  I’m like a giant multi-tasking Eagle, and I am perfectly capable of folding laundry, doing homework, making dinner, answering the door, and texting at the same time!  Could it be…could it possibly be that such tasks are what make me happficient?  Could it be that my entire concept of happficiency is a result of my extensive, and I dare to say, nearly expert use of efficiency in the face of a noisy life of challenges?  Is it true?  Would I truly be happy living a life of….leisure???!!!   Two days per week.  Wait, no- one.  One day per week.  If I could get one day per week of pure unabated leisure- I would be…happy.  Come to think of it, that would be Sundays.  Yes Sundays, when my husband is home and spends his day being very efficient in every way and always abundantly happy.

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